Let’s Get Joy

What are you doing right now when there is something else you could be doing that would give you real joy?

One Friday night after a long week of meetings and appointments, my fiancé and I decided to go out for a drink.  Earlier in the day I’d seen an advertisement for a local restaurant that was hosting live entertainment.  We both enjoy the atmosphere of live music, so we thought this would be a great way to end our week.  It had been a while since we’d had the live music experience and I was excited to go.  Besides, the last few weeks we had spent our Friday nights at home in our own little world, so this was sure to be a welcome change of pace.  It was to be a casual affair and there would be no cover charge.   This outing would require very little effort on our part, exactly what we needed.  Finally, the day was done and it was time to go.  We’d eaten dinner with a plan to have dessert at the restaurant.  We get there…..It was not at all what I had set myself up for.  The whole flow was off!  The restaurant was not prepared for this type of entertainment.  The songstress was stuck in the middle of the floor left to sing her ballads over the clanking of dishes and silverware as the busboys emptied their arms of dirty plates and cups.  The walkway to and from the bar lead directly in front of the songstress!  How nerve racking for both me and her.  Then there was the “live” music that turned out to be a guitar, a keyboard and the young lady singing.  Again, this was not at all what I expected.  Then it hit me, somewhere between the half consumed drinks and finishing my banana cream pie.  This was not where I wanted to be.  I was wasting my time.  While I was out in the night with happy people all around me, I realized that this was not where I wanted to be.  Where I really wanted to be, was at home, on my couch, with my dog and a glass of wine doing the things that meant the most to me.  Writing.  Snuggling.  Laughing at bad movies. Those are the things that really give me joy.

So, what is it for you?

What are you doing right now when there is something else you could be doing that would give you real joy?

At the J Spot, I can start the conversation, but it takes your thoughts, ideas and love to make it grow.  So, take the risk, leave a comment below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…”  Let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.

What Are Your Words?

We’ve all heard them. What are yours?

What are the words or phrases you believe should be banned from describing women leaders?

I am sure for most of us the words are too numerous to count. The ones that stand out to me the most are from people that I thought were my gateways to success.   They were words spoken to me by managers. Manager that told me I was “unapproachable.” or “…lower your standards.” Those words stung, but they didn’t deter me from continuing to work towards my goals. If anything, they proved that I needed to work a little harder because being in an environment where I wasn’t lifted up was not to be the end of my journey.

What are those words or phrases for you?

I am sure most of you have heard about the campaign to ban the word “bossy”. If not, Google it. It’s a campaign launched by Sheryl Sandberg to empower girls to lead. According to statistics, 75% of girls are less interested in leadership by the time they reach middle school because they don’t want to be perceived as “bossy”. It’s an interesting campaign, but it is only the start. Where is the campaign to ban the words “Bitch”, “Black Widow”, “Angry” and “Unapproachable” as acceptable words for describing women leaders? Does having been put through the adversity of being called “bossy” as children help us to form a thick skin so it doesn’t affect us as much when we are older? Look, statistics don’t lie and of all the CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, less than 5% are women1. What is truly stopping women from breaking into the C-Suite? Does being called “bossy” as a little girl really hold that much impact? Or is it the choices that we are forced to make between our careers and our lives? Say what you will about Sarah Mayer (Yahoo), but the fact that she even had to formulate a plan that encompassed how to maneuver her maternity leave while being CEO of Yahoo is a topic that might require some review.

We are a community of like-minded individuals, who may not all be headed to the same destination, but we are all on a journey. So I ask ….

What are the words or phrases you believe should be banned from describing women leaders?

At the J Spot, I can start the conversation, but it takes your thoughts, ideas and love to make it grow.  So, take the risk, leave a comment below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…” Let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.

1 – www.catalyst.org

Today is the day….

We have been walking our journey together for a few months now. With the on-set of Spring and all of the newness that it brings, I thought that I would try something new.  How about you write the blog this time around.  I will even get you started.

“In the spirit of the vernal equinox, today is the day….”

Now you tell us…What is today the day for?

Take the risk, leave your contribution to the blog below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…”  Let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.